Bo Friends of the shout:
Hello:
I am now suffering, stands at a crossroads, not knowing how to deal with change, of hope to your answer. Thank you!
Me and my boyfriend last year in April know, be smart, funny, will flirt, fall in love. it will discuss the girl favor. people to be careful to spend money very carefully. looks okay, a relatively high figure.
us the very first flat I love small, no experience, I feel he is very experienced, would say impressive words. We have just started occasionally send messages to, met once, he said, I feel good, like me. my heart actually like him, and then we contact the. my feelings very well attended. usually about 3 days before he is to give me a call, it hung up two minutes, a message one day, or I call hair. him back to me SMS is not timely. basically I called him, he felt not very patient, say a few wanted to die. Later, he and I mention it, I said: do not give me a call and SMS, we have never had telephone porridge pot. you do not care about me, on the line. is not like I have so much passion. I am so relieved himself.
a district we are not working, once a week to see above, and sometimes busy weekend to work overtime, he said, when not on the side of one month still see. Sometimes I call him, he has been in the call, two hours have been. then get through, and I jokingly asked him: when you take me home, right? He did not want to go, but look at me happy, there, too. I met the family, do not look bad he could not say why do not look good, just do not like him. but I'm headstrong, I think as long as I like the family can not decide for me. I was always in touch with him. I have not seen his friends and family. this point, I was never really comfortable, feeling he did not let me into his life, feeling that he not very reliable. but think of our communication was less than 6 months, may be the time .. then he did to her sister to his home a few days, he met me in the past see. Then you also to the identity of her boyfriend friends around for dinner. We live together a few times. We have already started talking about marriage thing. I feel that our relations are stable.
to this day in April, he suddenly said to the house, I said that to buy a house Register before it, we bought together. he did not agree, have to register before buying. that he bought himself. I say you are too selfish to pay all the capital you borrowed, even after I married with you also. But the house does not belong to our two people, but your own. he lied that the money is relative to the down payment, and do not want it. anyway, is to use a variety of reasons not to buy with me. I'm going to take my family 5 million. I say you take, I can borrow, marriage is still together, who, by not the same ah. I know he did not borrow enough capital. and then I hurried his registration and refused to register , I broke up with him. He can not, and I registered for.
results just finished the afternoon registration, we will out of things. That Friday afternoon out of the Civil Affairs Bureau, he continued to work, and I first back to his rented house. in his drawer to see photos, see his love letter to a girl, just like the handwriting is not a long time to write, which is very strong feelings, love love that girl that, there is a girl wrote to him, comparing old handwriting, but also the kind of love, the girl to her husband, the wife of proportionality. is also found on his computer that he kept the other girl's blog, it seems that the high school love object, was married, wrote her own unhappy marriage, but also write and my boyfriend are good friends. though not together, but certainly the person most concerned about the meaning of each other. I thought: Oh, and before high school girlfriend relationship so close. talk to each other, an affair.
found these, I have paralyzed the whole person. I did not expect him between now and two girls, not general. He said he 20:00 off the clock. until six when I call him, urging him to go home. played 2 times, he refuses to pick at. call is in the call. until 8:00, his cell phone just to get through. He came home I asked him very angry : Who are you on the phone, so long? He said the leading mobile phone is broken, play with his cell phone. He lied never blush, that's very real. I said, I see your cell phone, he does not give, I insist on watching, he gave me, I opened his cell phone a look inside the phone call has been deleted, see a text message, is married to his high school girlfriend who has the hair, said: heart had been stuck in that moment, you are my source of pain. a telephone call back to verify the girl. The thing to let the matter rest. I said the things that love letters, he refuses to acknowledge. that are past. Now do not already contacted. He also said that he did before the registration not a good man, but in the future will be a good man. and I live well. I have trouble, I said: we'll just leave the calculations. I'm looking for a like me more. I will be happy. scare me, how could just get married, to divorce it. I do not show weakness, said: how pull request, he strengthened the idea of divorce.
what he told me. the original and the girl he wrote love letters, and my contacts, they have been linked, often on the phone. one that is 2 hours. he liked the girl, the girl liked him. he wanted and the girls get married, but the girl's family complain that he is poor, life and death do not agree, he and the girl had before living together. They know more than 2 years than I more than one year earlier. girl 10 years younger than him, and now is another city on the graduate students. Both of them are not married, but love each other. He so out with me, that is, I feel like him, I am very enthusiastic I will ignore the opposition and his family together. But he do not like my character, he thinks that my wood, not smart, not eloquent. He said I can not catch his heart, the girl was able to.
I heard, a broken heart. It turned out he had been hiding my foot in both camps, a few days ago, he had come home to find the name of the girl several times. No wonder the weekend to find me, his cell phone to off, the girl is afraid to give his phone, he was suspended by the opportunity to hang the girl. He always said I would not hang his appetite, the girl, and he often hanging suspended to go. let him unable to stop.
he has been lie. I did not find. He went after the girl came back to buy a house, do not know why? not like I do and I registered, and then they immediately regret, to divorce, I do not understand. Since it is not so fond of me, why, and I registered it? is a sub-set of money because I do not? also buy a house with him? Why then regret, let me be the first married woman to divorce? I'm 28, and he was 28. We are not small the
when he said to me understand why, I also agree to divorce, and I would like to quietly re-divorce. registration day our divorce, he gave his family says he is divorcing me, his family also Nothing, say the two of you'll have to see. My heart is very cool.
I went home, after a day, he sent a message, saying that he is stupid, should not divorce. want me and good. Later, he wanted to leave. I feel he did not want to leave may also be because of money, before he put ten thousand yuan of the money in my card. the house has to pay a deposit of 1 million, if the divorce, not a house to buy, the deposit can not to be back.
the way, I'm conditions are not bad, looks bad. cheerful, family is not bad. with him more than enough. But I am very simple, people are very realistic. very specific. my mind is not very smart. He like smart, can say, quick. These I have not exactly. I feel he is anything against me.
now two of us no trouble, and said after the good life, he said he would not contact her . do not know if he can not do. but I can with him it? What should I divorce? I can believe him? I also want to divorce, but I'm so afraid to be divorced woman.
you After pointing fans! good lost, and look forward to your reply! extremely thank you!!
back Bo Friends:
feelings sometimes like this, people do not know what love is not love, and love themselves chosen to . Take your husband and her, strangled by their parents, while you and your husband although not killed by their parents, but was hurt by her husband.
combined in a marriage when the two would not necessarily be your favorite that person, but it is certainly the best moment and his hand for that person. Maybe it is because of this reason, this only contributed to your marriage.
fact, the position of standing up to consider your husband, and he also made psychological struggle, or that he would not take him for the past two years about doing overall, this is who made the fatal mistake favorite.
marriage of two people carries a curious attitude, want to know each other's past, he truthfully said, cracking a long period of doubt you, but you caused great emotional harm, that it makes you lose the courage to carry on. people are strange sometimes animals, some things to know, I know not to be relieved after the psychological preparation.
you feel between them possible? flash from the flash marriage is not the ultimate solution to solve the problem. I'll give you advice is : do contraception, and then use your heart to influence him, if within a year, his heart can not really return, and then divorce, too late Yeah!
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